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Wednesday, November 01, 2006
We are egocentric by nature. Or are we not?
We often have a sense of personal uniqueness and invincibility, and we choose to believe that others are vulnerable to tragedies but we, as well as people close to us, are not. While it may be a mode of self-deception, I think its importance to our well-being cannot be undermined. Imagine yourself being totally devoid of such egocentrism. Wouldn't you be perpetually worry about this, sceptical about that? If so, our entire life would basically be grounded on pessimism and life simply suck big time then.Must it always be the case that we start to shift away from being egocentric when something happens to someone dear to you, or even just someone whom you know?
It stumbled upon me when I had learnt something about my friend's mum just this evening. It gave me the same feeling I felt two years back when my younger cousin succumbed to cancer, and it made me realise, once again, that I have been living in a world of self-deception. It could happen to anyone, including yourself. It isn't that hard to understand such a simple fact but I guess we've all be cognitively wired to be "optimistic".
This episode simply jolts me back to reality. I was so engrossed in my own life - constantly worrying about not studying enough, meeting deadlines, etc - that I have neglected my friends.
I feel that I've never cared enough about my friends and I'm so so guilty of that. I really appreciated those of you who make it an effort to care and while I do not take the initiative to do so, I would like you to know that I really do care and I will always be there for you. Not so proactive, I know. But I will make an effort to change, to be more proactive, cos I value you more than anything else.
Dear friends, I've promised you that I'll be there for all of you, whatever happens. So, let me know if you need anything, or simply just someone to listen to. I will be there... for you.
: 10:47 AM